Sunday, December 16, 2012

Steve Pavlina Personal Development Insights Newsletter Issue #51 - December 12, 2012


SBI 2-for-1 Holiday Special - Save $299


Site Build-It is now running their ever popular 2-for-1 holiday special, which they do every year at this time. With this special you can start two different web-based passive income streams for the price of one of their educational and hosting packages. This is their best deal of the year, and it's good through December 25th.
Many people use one package for themselves and give the second as a gift for a friend or family member. Giving someone a gift that can make them money is a nice way to win them over. :)
See my previous Site Build-It review for more details about this service and why I've been recommending it for years as a great way for people to earn money online.

Compare SBI with Other Options

SBI is one of many options available to you for building a web business. I recommend it because it compares very favorably to the other typical approaches, which don't offer nearly as much value for what they cost.
For details on some comparisons between SBI and other options, see:
Speaking to those last two, I am a very successful pro blogger, and I do use WordPress, but I still recommend SBI as an easier and more effective choice for most people. Review the links above, and you'll understand why.
SBI continues to invest for the benefit of their customers and recently spent millions of dollars upgrading their service, so if you haven't checked it out recently, be sure to give it a fresh look.

Who Can Succeed with SBI?

One suggestion for would-be SBIers: The people who succeed on this path are those who commit to it with a healthy respect for the seriousness of creating and owning a real, honest, value-providing, money-making business. The dabblers  who want something for nothing won't get very far. In fact, the various pages on SBI's website frequently seek to weed out the dabbler types and discourage them from signing up for the service. Why? Because those people make lousy customers. Those are the people that give up after a few weeks and ask for a refund (which SBI readily gives them). SBI's business model isn't based on getting a bunch of impulse purchases from flaky dabbler types. SBI wants mature-minded customers who'll build real income streams, so those customers will be making good money and will therefore stick with SBI year after year because they're drawing tremendous value from this type of partnership. And ideally SBI would love to see their customers buying more packages and creating more businesses that endure for years, if not decades.
If you're a dabbler looking for some kind of short-term get rich quick scheme that will magically pay your bills without requiring any actual creative work from you, please don't bother with SBI because it's not intended for those kinds of lazy-minded folks. Rather, SBI is a service that helps entrepreneurially minded people with the tools, education, and hosting they need to build, launch, and successfully manage profitable online businesses that generates stable income year after year.
While SBI is intended for people who are ready to build a real business, this is a matter of attitude and mindset, not a requirement that you be an experienced entrepreneur. The service is designed to hand-hold you through the process if you're just beginning on your entrepreneurial path. Dabblers simply don't do well as entrepreneurs -- or on any serious career path for that matter -- because they're too flaky and don't persist long enough to make it into the long run, where results (especially income) begin to accumulate. So if you know yourself to be the dabbler type, don't expect SBI is cure you of that. For those people I recommend you read my six-part self-discipline series and begin building up your discipline muscles first.
The nice thing about SBI is that you don't have to do it full-time. It's a great fit if you just want a part-time business on the side, such as if you're a student looking to pay off your student loans, a retiree wanting to enjoy extra passive income, or if you simply enjoy working from home and would rather not have to commute to work each day. I've been working from home and quite enjoy it, and when I want a change of pace I can work from anywhere. Right now as I type this, I'm working from a local coffee shop.
If you see yourself as a person with the self-discipline to start an online business today and to still be running it profitably 5 years from now and enjoying the long-term rewards of entrepreneurship, then SBI would be a great match for you. You'll be free to focus on the creative side of the business while SBI handles the technical details and heavy lifting. But if you're the kind of person who switches careers every 6-12 months, then I don't expect SBI would be a good match for you.
It's been said that there are a thousand different success principles, but none of them work without self-discipline.

SBI Case Studies and Proof That It Works

When I tell people about SBI, they often want to see proof and examples of what others have done with it. So if you're curious to hear from some actual SBI users about their experiences with the service, see this page as well as these SBI case studiessuccess samplesresults, and proof.

Using SBI with Different Business Models

SBI is a very flexible platform, so it works with a variety of business models. If you want to learn more about how to use SBI for a variety of online income streams, check out these pages:
Fortunately you can also mix and match different income streams, so you're not stuck with just one. I enjoy a variety of income streams from my website, which collectively add up to tens of thousands of dollars per month. Yet many people tell me that when they look at my website, they conclude I'm probably not making much money from it since the site isn't cluttered with a bazillion ads. It's quite possible to build a website that generates plenty of income without turning it into pop-up city.

SBI in Other Languages

SBI is international too, so if you'd like to learn about using their service in a language other than English, see these pages:
If you'd like to learn even more about SBI and connect with them via social media, you can follow them through these outlets:
I'd especially recommend that you follow SBI on Facebook since they occasionally run exclusive specials there.

SBI Questions

Many people have additional questions about SBI and want to make an ultra-informed decision. Starting a web business is indeed an important life decision that you should make with careful consideration. If you have more questions about their service, please take advantage of their special questions form. You can ask anything you want about the service and get a response from an experienced SBI customer.

Share Your Success

Once you have your SBI business up and running, please do let me know about it. I love hearing people's success stories and checking out the different business ideas they're implementing. I've been earning income online since 1995, and most of the money I've earned in my life has come via the Internet (well into the 7 figure range now). I love-love-love that it's possible to make a great living this way without needing a job or a boss. It's a pleasure to connect with like-minded people who are also committed to their freedom, growth, and prosperity.
Incidentally, one of the best perks of having an online business is going out Christmas shopping or traveling and knowing that your website is earning money faster than you're spending it, even when you're not working. If you're not enjoying that sort of reality right now, you could be enjoying a stress-free holiday season like that in the future -- and many more. The same holidays will come up again and again no matter what. Once you get the financial abundance part of your life handled, the holidays are a lot more enjoyable. While it may be true that money can't buy happiness, financial stress can certainly get in the way of happiness for many people, especially at this time of year. A decent online business that brings in extra income month after month and year after year is an effective way to take the pressure off, so you can truly let go of work and enjoy nice moments with friends and family at this time of year.
Only you can decide if SBI is a good fit for you. If it is, here's the sign up page.

The Easiest Way to Build Your Self-Discipline

In this article I'll share a simple tip that's very effective at building lifelong self-discipline, and I'll explain why it works so well.
Here's the tip: Adopt the habit of reading personal growth material for one hour per day.
You can do this 5, 6, or 7 days a week, depending on your level of commitment, but consider 5 days per week to be the minimum.
Personal growth material can be anything that helps you grow. As a rule of thumb, before reading any book, ask yourself: If I read this book now, what difference will it likely make in my life 5 years from now? What do I expect will be the long term impact of reading this book today? If you're not sure or if you can't identify any likely long-term benefits, then that book is probably a waste of your time. Put it down, and select something that's more likely to help you create and experience better results down the road.
This core reading hour may include books that will help you develop valuable knowledge and skills, advance you in your career, help you cultivate positive lifelong habits, improve your health and fitness practices, achieve financial prosperity, improve your social and relationship skills, explore your life purpose, increase your scientific understanding, raise bright and happy children, and so on.
You can still read books purely for pleasure, such as popular novels, but don't include those types of books as part of your personal growth hour unless you're nearly certain that those stories will be transformational for you. Devote that personal growth hour to serious reading with the most practical books you can find.
The best times of day for your reading hour are the first hour after you get up in the morning and the last hour of the day before you go to bed. The first hour, also called the rudder of the day, sets the tone for the rest of the day to follow. And the last hour helps program your mind with positive input before you sleep; you'll often wake up with fresh ideas in the morning based on what you read the night before. If you'd like, you can even split your reading hour between these two time slots. Just aim to read positive, growth-oriented material for about an hour per day. If you want to do more, that's fine too, but the most important thing is to make this a long-term habit. Don't burn yourself out by reading 2-3 hours a day for the first week and then quitting when you get busy.
If you find it too difficult to immediately dive into the practice of reading for an hour per day, then start with 30 or even 15 minutes. Cultivate this habit for 3-4 weeks first, to establish the basic pattern of daily reading. Then if you can manage it, gradually extend the time until you're up to 60 minutes per day. Once you get into the habit of daily reading, it's easy to extend the time.

Adding Disciplined Influences to Your Life

How does this positive reading habit help you build your self-discipline?
First, people who've written complete books tend to be much more disciplined than average -- completing a book and getting it published is hard work -- so you'll be learning ideas and picking up subtle mental influences from fairly disciplined people. This will help counteract the more lazy-minded influences in society, such as you'll be exposed to from television, advertising, web surfing, casual socializing, etc.
Second, if you specifically select books from authors you perceive to be highly disciplined relative to yourself, you'll be adding even more disciplined input to your life. By observing how those authors think and contrasting their thoughts and ideas with those of your least disciplined friends, you'll deepen your understanding of self-discipline. This will help you make wiser, more disciplined choices in your own life.

Neuroplasticity

In the last century, it was believed that the brain went through physical changes in early childhood, but by the time a person reached adulthood, the brain was largely a static organ, no longer experiencing much structural change. Today neuroscientists are finding this to be untrue. Even as an adult, your brain can continue to structurally adapt to changes in your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and environment. In other words, the way you use your mind causes physical changes in the structure of your brain over time. This is similar to how lifting weights encourages physical changes in your muscles. Your brain's ability to structurally adapt to changing usage patterns is called neuroplasticity.
There's a common expression in personal growth circles: We become what we think about. In the past this phrase was often shared with an air of mysticism, but modern neuroscience reveals that this notion is much more real and physical than was previously thought.
When you expose your mind to daily disciplined influences, your mind spends more time holding disciplined thoughts. This in turn promotes physical changes in your brain's structures, i.e. in how your neurons are arranged and how efficiently they process certain types of information. With more disciplined input, it's likely that the neural circuitry in your brain will become more organized around the theme of self-discipline, so as you age, you'll find it increasingly natural and effortless to take disciplined action. Disciplined input trains your brain for more disciplined thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviors. In other words, disciplined input gives you a more disciplined brain, which makes you a more disciplined person.
You can already see that your body adapts to its inputs. When you eat too much for an extended period of time, you may gain weight. When you endure too much stress for too long, you get sick. When you train your muscles, they get stronger. When you engage in regular cardio exercise, your heart and lungs increase their capacity. These changes are physical and measurable.
Your brain adapts in similar ways. Your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, when repeated over time, encourage a physical training response in your brain. More neurons may be dedicated to a particular thought pattern, behavior, or emotional state, making it faster and easier to access that state in the future.Neurogenesis may also occur, meaning that new neurons grow, causing the most active regions of your brain to become neurally denser. The more you repeat certain patterns, the more likely it is that your brain will adapt by devoting more neural resources to such processing. Indeed, there is increasing evidence from neuroscience that you become what you think about -- in the sense that your brain is physically molded and shaped in response to the input you give it.
If you repeatedly make excuses, your brain will become increasingly efficient at devising and delivering excuses. If you fall into the habit of being late often, your brain will become ever more efficient at memorizing and triggering behaviors that make you late. If you spend much time worrying, your brain will become more efficient at generating the worry state.
On the upside, the more time you spend learning, the more efficiently your brain can learn. The more you socialize, the more your brain adapts to make you socially competent. The more time you devote to a particular skill path, the more your brain adapts to make you an expert.

All Input Is Training

Because of the way your brain adapts to input over time, it's wise to take more responsibility for the inputs you allow into your life. As you expose your mind to repeated influences, your brain adapts to become more efficient at processing similar patterns. Many people, however, do not choose their inputs carefully. They allow others -- or society at large -- to determine what those influences will be. But since those sources are rarely thoughtful and congruent, their influences tend to be chaotic and haphazard, which leads not only to a chaotic mind, but also to a chaotic and disorganized brain.
All input trains your brain. Watching sitcoms is mental training. Web surfing is mental training. Socializing is mental training. Eating is mental training. Sex is mental training. Lying in bed after your alarm goes off is mental training. Yoga is mental training. Writing is mental training. Complaining is mental training. Visualization is mental training.
The key question is: How do you want to train your brain? What do you want your brain to become more efficient at doing?

Reading Is Brain Training

A simple way to retrain your brain is by changing what you read as well as how often you read. The mental activity of reading creates new patterns of neural firing, which in turn has a training effect on the neural circuitry that gets activated.
In addition to reading, you can also listen to audiobooks. Play quality audiobooks while you do easy physical tasks such as cooking, eating, driving, getting dressed, cleaning, exercising, etc. Or you can simply relax and listen attentively.
I adopted the habit of reading personal growth material more than 20 years ago, and it has served me extremely well. Instead of overtraining my brain with chaotic or narrow-minded inputs that weren't of my choosing, I selected what I believed would be quality influences. I can trace many significant improvements in my life to this simple habit.
I've also noticed that whenever I slack off from this habit, my mental efficiency gradually declines. I grow lazier. My thoughts and feelings become more chaotic and disharmonious. I find it more difficult to focus. I feel more stressed. But as soon as I return to that powerful habit of training my brain with its daily regimen of thoughtful, disciplined input, the benefits I know and love quickly return. "Use it or lose it" is very true.
The lesson is clear: Choose quality inputs for your mind, and train your brain for lifelong success and fulfillment. Your brain will adapt to the training you provide.
If you need some good suggestions to get started, you'll find a list of my favorite personal development books, sorted by category, on my recommended reading page.
Happy holidays!

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Steve Recommends

Here are my recommendations for products and services that I've personally reviewed and which I believe can help you on your personal growth journey. This is a very short list since it only includes my top picks.
Site Build It! - Build an income-generating website.
Getting Rich with Ebooks - Earn passive income from ebooks.
Lefkoe Method - Permanently eliminate a limiting belief in 20 minutes.
Paraliminals - Accelerate your personal growth.
Sedona Method - Free Audio - Learn to release blocks in a few minutes
The Journal - Keep a secure journal on your PC.
PhotoReading - Read books 3x faster.
Life on Purpose - Discover your life purpose.

Until next time, live consciously!

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Steve Pavlina Personal Development Insights Newsletter Issue #50

Effortless Success Mindfest - Completely Free for This Weekend Only

Learning Strategies has been streaming a very nice audio program from Jack Canfield on the Law of Attraction this week, called the Effortless Success Mindfest. It's completely free to listen to it online, but they're only making it available through this weekend. So if you have some time this weekend to listen to it (while doing house cleaning or making meals, for instance), this is a very nice program to give you a boost of motivation and action ideas going into next week.
Feel free to read my blog post about the Mindfest, or check out the list of topics on the Effortless Success Mindfest website, and start listening to your first lesson right away. Again, it's free and it only takes a few seconds to sign up.
If you have any difficulties getting access to the course, just drop an email to info@learningstrategies.com, and they'll be happy to walk you through it. I listened to this course years ago and quite enjoyed it.

Morten Hake Summit

I had such an amazing time in Oslo last week, including speaking at the Morten Hake Summit. Thanks so much to everyone who attended. I'd love to speak again there next year!

What Lucid Dreaming Can Teach You About Manifesting

With intention-manifestation the process of receiving an intention is very similar to learning lucid dreaming.
In lucid dreaming you become conscious and aware that you're dreaming. You remember that your real physical body is actually lying in bed asleep, and that what you're perceiving is all happening in your sleeping brain. You remember your waking life and your identity, and you know that the dream world you see is imaginary. This realization gives you the ability to take control of the dream. So you can fly like Superman, teleport, conjure up new scenes and characters, and so on. For a good intro to this topic, listen to the lucid dreaming podcast that Erin and I created several years ago.
When people experience their very first lucid dream, they usually wake up almost immediately, so the experience of lucidity only lasts a few seconds. Why does this happen? It happens because the person, upon realizing they're having their first lucid dream, becomes way too excited. The experience is just too amazing for the person to remain calm, and so their heart rate speeds up, and they jolt themselves awake.
The second or third time someone has a lucid dream, they usually experience the same thing. They instantly get excited, and this excitement kills the dream and wakes them up.
In order to sustain a lucid dream, the person has to learn to remain calm when they realize they're dreaming. They must avoid creating the emotional spikes that will wake them up. Fortunately this is just a matter of practice. Once people learn to stay calm, they can enjoy much longer lucid dreams without waking up so quickly.

The Problem of Excess Excitement

This is essentially what happens when people begin to practice intention-manifestation as well. In order to receive new intentions, the person must learn to receive their manifestations calmly. Otherwise they're actually killing the intention and pushing away their desires.
Suppose you intend to manifest a new relationship partner. So you get clear about the vibe you'd be experiencing if this person was already with you, you practice holding that vibe until you feel quite comfortable with it, and you work through blocks to receiving your intention (shame, fear, guilt, worry, scarcity, etc). If you've been following my blog for a while, then this process is nothing new for you.
Now suppose that this works. Your intention begins to manifest, just as you requested. You begin to notice some potential matches showing up in your life.
The first time this happens, you may have a tendency to get overly excited. You think, Holy crap! This person could be a really awesome match for me... that was fast!
It might seem well and good to feel this much excitement, but when you do this, you'll often find that your early matches quickly fizzle out. Something goes wrong, or you foul something up, and the complete manifestation doesn't really come through. You may even sense that the universe is teasing you by dangling your request in front of you, only to yank it away when you try to grab it.
This happens because that overly excited vibe is not the vibe of receiving. The vibe of receiving is cool, calm, gracious, and relaxed. This is the same vibe that's required to maintain a lucid dream. With lucid dreaming if you get overly excited, you kill the dream. With manifesting intentions if you get overly excited, you kill the manifestation process.
What often happens is that after a while, the person trying to manifest their desire learns to stop spazzing out emotionally whenever their desire begins to show up. Sometimes this happens by accident. They may give up on their intention for a while, and that's when it finally comes through. By not caring about it as much, they stop exuding that crazy, clingy energy that repels desires, and they adopt a cooler and more receptive posture that's aligned with receiving.

How to Stop Spazzing Out

I've been manifesting some pretty amazing desires this year, and one of my biggest challenges has been to avoid spazzing out with over-the-top excitement when they begin to show up.
When an idea that has been a fantasy for a while starts to become an actual reality, it can be quite difficult to receive it calmly and gracefully. Initially you may be very tempted to react, Oh my God! I can't believe this is actually happening! This is too good to be true! Am I really ready for this now? What do I do here? I'd better be careful, or I might screw this up.
When you spaz out with excessive enthusiasm, your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs suggest something like this:
  • I don't deserve this.
  • I'm not ready for this yet.
  • It's too soon.
  • It's too much.
  • I need more time to prepare.
  • This is too good to be true.
But when you can maintain a cool, gracious receptivity, then you're aligning yourself with thoughts, feelings, and beliefs such as:
  • I'm ready for this now.
  • No time like the present.
  • I deserve this.
  • This is normal for me.
  • I receive this.
  • Cool, thanks.

Receiving Gracefully

What if you can't help but feel a big energy build-up when your most exciting desires begin to manifest? How do you contain that energy without spazzing out internally?
If you try to keep that energy bottled up, it will lead to excess excitement. That extra energy has to go somewhere. The key is to release it instead of trying to hold onto it. Otherwise you'll kill the flow, and your desire won't fully manifest. So instead of trying to contain that energy, do your best to keep it moving.
When the universe brings me what I asked for, I return that energy to the universe in the form of gratitude and appreciation. I imagine this excess energy pooling in my heart (or my heart chakra, by imagining a green glowing orb in the center of my chest), and then I send this energy back outwards by holding thoughts such as:
  • Thank you.
  • Mmmmmm... this is very nice.
  • I receive and appreciate this.
  • I'm grateful for this.
  • You are making me feel very loved.
  • I'm glad to be having this experience now.
Quite often I'll say things like the above out loud, either to the people near me (if my desires are manifesting through them) or just aloud to the universe when I'm alone. If I express this gratitude towards people, then I'll usually make it more personal like, "I appreciate having you in my life" or "The way you make love is really beautiful."
I like to take advantage of quiet opportunities to release any extra energy build-up, so that energy can keep flowing. For instance, if I'm on a plane and I'm starting to feel really excited about the trip I'm taking, I might gaze out the window and say a silent "Thank you... this is a really nice experience. I very much appreciate it." to the clouds below. Or if I'm in the using the tiny bathroom on the plane, I'll pause for a moment, look in the mirror, and smile as I say aloud some simple statement like, "I really appreciate being able to travel as much as I do. Thank you."
Even when I've had some physically draining experiences connected to my manifestations -- like when I was traveling continuously for more than 24 hours on 3 different planes last week with no sleep -- I still like to pause now and then to express gratitude for the experience. If I'm receiving what I asked for, even if the act of receiving entails some difficulty, I still want to remain as gracious and receptive as I can under the circumstances. This helps keep the flow going, making it easier and easier for similar intentions to come through.
I know that if I request something from the universe, and the universe delivers essentially what I requested, it's wise receive this gift with a sense of grace, coolness, and deservedness. If I generate excess excitement at the first sign of delivery, then I'm not allowing myself to be a good match for this desire yet. I'm still resisting it on some level.
With practice, you can take intentions that once seemed incredible or out of reach and integrate them into your normal experience of living. Instead of being amazing and exceptional and rare, they can become as simple and real as having breakfast... but with no loss of appreciation for them. When this happens your life will become like a beautiful dream, full of delightful experiences that you relish.

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Steve Recommends

Here are my recommendations for products and services that I've personally reviewed and which I believe can help you on your personal growth journey. This is a very short list since it only includes my top picks.
Getting Rich with Ebooks - Earn passive income from ebooks.
Site Build It! - Build an income-generating website.
Lefkoe Method - Permanently eliminate a limiting belief in 20 minutes.
Paraliminals - Accelerate your personal growth.
Sedona Method - Free Audio - Learn to release blocks in a few minutes
The Journal - Keep a secure journal on your PC.
PhotoReading - Read books 3x faster.
Life on Purpose - Discover your life purpose.

Until next time, live consciously!